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Loss is a universal experience. Nobody goes through this life unhurt by its torment and the pain and devastation it leads to. Even though we all face loss, every individual will experience loss differently. For some it may be through the passing of a child or partner. Others will face a brake up of their marriage or family or a chronic sickness such as cancer or the loss of their job that had provided for their family. Loss might come by the loss of your reputation, betrayal by a good friend or rejection by a family member. No matter how our loss arrives, when we lose something we treasured and of course is important to us, the agony and discomfort is inevitable, changing our life forever.
Because I have journeyed thru some significant losses in my life I have an understanding of the devastation of loss in a person’s life. As I have matured in life and have grown in my knowledge and understanding of my Heavenly father the realization that pain, heartache and that all my losses can be used by God to bring not only His healing but also my growing in Him. He has expanded the very essence of who I am. Not so I’ll take great pride in myself am for having overcome so much, imagine the sadness, if that were all I had to show for the losses in my life. No, when God expands our soul, grows, and fortifies us, in the middle of our losses, its so He will show us a life that is larger than ourself; demonstrating that just because our world is fallen and full of sin and death, He’s still desiring to accomplish His perfect plan and will for us and in us.
Romans 8:28:
“We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”
Many times when people are experiencing their agony due to the loss they have suffered, their attitude is to deny their loss, even becoming hateful to somebody sharing the truth of God’s Word with them, believing it callous, insensitive or too preachy. Learning to know when it is the best time for such things is important, not revealing the truth and great hope of the guarantees of our Heavenly father shows a great absence of compassion and love, for ultimately nothing aside from God’s power and His love will set a person free to get past and prosper following a devastating loss.
It is that incapacity to move on that is the topic of what I am penning. There would not be any need to talk about getting beyond our loss if it didn’t have such superb force to just keep us where we are, almost frozen in time or worse, living life only in the past, ignoring what is happening today or plans for the future as if it doesn’t matter.
There is of course, a place and a time to mourn. Not facing your loss and permitting yourself to feel the agony and misery of it, will result in all kinds of additional physical and emotional issues down the line. Loss needs healthy grief for healing, healing your grief needs time. But that time is not meant to stay around forever. Cherishing memories and special feelings for a lost loved one is by all means vital. Recalling special or joyous times in your life are good and healthy. Even sadness from time to time as you’re feeling the emptiness or face the changes loss has left you with, is good and acceptable but a life of mourning isn’t!
Lamentations three, the verse says there is a time and a season for each thing and for every purpose under heaven, including mourning:
A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.
If we decide to not move from a unending place of hurt and pain, we are going to lose out on all the wonderful things God has planned for us in this life, that is a loss of unspeakable proportions. Your Heavenly Father is loving and delights in healing and restoration for each individual who calls on Him. God does not want us to go through our lifetime wounded and crippled in our spirit or our body as a consequence of the pain in our life we have endured. He desires to cure us for our sake and for His glory and purposes. He’s your God of a new start in life, never not working in people’s lives, demonstrating His power and showing the world His love for you and me.
Isaiah 43 : 18-19 ( NASB )
Do not call to mind the previous things, or ponder things of the past. Behold, I’m going to do something new. Now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it?
He wants for us to journey with Him and enjoy the things He is doing, yet if we decide or refuse not to accept God into our lives, then we are destined to spend the rest of our lives in self-pity and despair.
One of the most detrimental choices somebody can make after the loss of a friend or family member especially that of a better half of a child or maybe after a divorce – is that they will never let themselves fall in love again. In their mind it will be to open themselves up to that very same devastating pain again and who in their right mind would do that? But to make a choice like that is to make sure that one is very likely to miss more of the great life ahead that your Heavenly Father has planned for you.
A Grace Disguised, a wonderful book; writer Gerald Sittser, who lost not only his wife but also his mother and a young daughter in an automobile crash writes about just what you are going through.
“The risk of further loss, therefore, poses a dilemma. The problem of choosing to love again is that the choice to love means living under the constant threat of further loss. But the problem of choosing not to love is that the choice to turn from love means imperiling the soul, for the soul thrives in an environment of love. Soul-full people love; soul-less people do not. If people want their soul to grow through loss, whatever the loss is, they must eventually decide to love even more deeply than they did before. They must respond to the loss by embracing love with renewed energy and commitment.”
Expanding our heart to love again after loss can be a mysterious step in the healing God gives us. It is our decision to refuse or accept His healing or we can withdraw to guard our heart, leading to a reduced soul and a very empty and meaningless way to finish living life. It would be easy to walk away from love because the risk of loss is simply too great. Yes, another loss may occur yet God’s love and His power is even more certain to cure you. It does take some courage to live again and it takes His power to love continuously. With Our Lord God, it means a new beginning and a reason to move on!
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